Mothers and Their Sons
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The reason I chose this topic to write about is because some have questioned how Chris, the protagonist in my Course Corrections book series, developed the relationship that he has with his mother. And that’s a good question.
Early in Chris’s life, his brother Brad, who was four years older than him, was killed in a horrible car accident at an intersection in their small town. To make it even more difficult for Chris and his parents to accept, was the fact that the person who hit the car Brad was riding in was drunk when he caused the T-bone accident.
Chris’s mom had always been an attentive parent, fully involved in each of her two son’s lives—you could say she was a “helicopter mom.” After Brad’s untimely death, Chris’s mom and dad engaged in lots of blaming of each other, seeing it as the other’s responsibility to have kept Brad from being “out with the guys” that night.
In order to cope with multiple losses—his brother’s death, his parents often engaging in verbal attacks on each other, and Chris receiving mostly protective restrictions to his life from Mom—Chris turned to other endeavors. Those included: doing well in school; discovering and pursuing a vital interest in learning to fly; and finding helpful support through discussions with Walt and Jeannette, a childless couple in the town who were about the same ages as Chris’s parents.
That’s the background to why Chris doesn’t share everything with his parents about what’s going on in his life, especially with Mom. While their relationship has the feel of being strained, it’s not broken. Mom is still vitally interested in Chris’s well being
. She doesn’t like him pursuing aviation as a life career but has accepted that she can no longer control that aspect of her son’s life.
For his part, maturing Chris is learning to verbally express his truth—he loves his mother and his father.